If you feel like everything happens to kids earlier now, you are right! Puberty now begins for girls as early as nine years old, and boys as early as 11. To ensure that kids are not more horrified than they need to be, parents should start talking about the changes their bodies will undergo much before they start to happen. One spoonful at a time. When the topic comes up… Read More
Summertime is for collecting. Collecting shells, sea glass, fireflies and memories. Collections are like strings of little pearls of summer, a physical remembrance of special times growing up. Think back to your memories of summer. The smell of grass, the ocean, the feel of diving into a clean, cool swimming pool. It is a sensuous time of the year and hopefully, a slower one. Summer is a time for regrouping… Read More
The Curse and Seduction of Being Right
by Lisa Merlo Booth
Many people struggle with the curse of being right. When people struggle with being right it feels as if you’re constantly in an argument about the “facts.” Sometimes it can feel as if you’re talking with a lawyer instead of a friend or partner. For example, you might ask your partner… Read More
Here are the core emotional qualities of our best adult selves.
Calm, Compassionate, Curious, Connected, Confident, Creative, Courageous, Clear, Patience, Perspective, Perseverance, Presence
When we can lead our lives from this essential self we have healthier relationships, make better choices, and feel more flexible and calm while we ride the waves of life. These qualities make a great leader, and what is a parent, if not a leader?… Read More
Media and Children– From The American Academy Of Pediatrics
Media is everywhere. TV, Internet, computer and video games all vie for our children’s attention. Information on this page can help parents understand the impact media has in our children’s lives, while offering tips on managing time spent with various media. The AAP has recommendations for parents and pediatricians.
Today’s children are spending an… Read More
A recent article in Child-Psych gives important data about children and discipline and lying. In a nutshell, the harsher the punishments, the more kids lie. Yet another piece of date to support the goal of approaching punishment from a calm, centered place instead of reacting in anger.
A study conducted by Talwar and Lee looks at two separate West African schools, one with punitive disciplinary practices, the other non-punitive… Read More
By Bethany Saltman
T and I are scheduled to offer a retreat, along with other senior lay students/parents, on the practice of parenting at Fire Lotus Temple in Brooklyn, the city center of Zen Mountain Monastery. And I agreed to lead a discussion about parenting after being approached by a lovely new mom in Woodstock, and owner of Illuminated Baby, which will happen soon after. Oy.
As readers of… Read More
When times are good with your children, you can’t even imagine not wanting to be a parent. When difficulties arise, from the typical and small, like constant temper tantrums, to the unthinkable, like diagnosis of Asperger’s, or juvenile diabetes, or your teenager in the grip of an eating disorder, your mettle as a parent is tested to the limits.
You may wish for an escape–that is natural. You may… Read More
Kids love traditions. The smells and tastes of the holidays, the family rituals, are stored in their little brains forever. Here is a great tradition to make Thanksgiving true to its name.
Using a sketch or scrap book start a Family Thanksgiving Book together. Give each person, large and small, a page to write or draw what they feel thankful for. From the sublime to the ridiculous, your health… Read More
By Heidi Bernstein-Krantz, Professional Life Coach
1. Although it may not be easy to envision, the challenge of divorce can be accompanied by significant opportunity that would not have otherwise presented itself. Identify one goal that you can accomplish now, that you could not have achieved during your marriage.
2. Divorce can often cause our confidence and self-esteem to waver. Recognizing your positive traits is essential at… Read More