Land Your Helicopters: The End of a Parenting EraJune 2, 2009 · Posted in Discipline, Education, K-5 Kids, Parenting, Preschoolers, Spoiling, Toddlerhood · Permalink

Ahhh, thank goodness! Lisa Belkin, writer and author of the blog Motherlode trumpets the end of an era of over-indulgent parenting. In her May 31st, 2009 New York Times Magazine article “Let The Kid Be” she writes, “It seems as though the newest wave of mothers is saying no to prenatal Beethoven appreciation classes, homework tutors in kindergarten, or moving to a town near their child’s college campus so the darling can more easily have home-cooked meals.” A sentence that warms my heart.
Not that we haven’t been railing against this for years but it’s nice to have some back up. This does not mean the end to being a responsive parent– one that thoughtfully decides when to move in and when to lay back– it just hopefully signals that parents will no longer believe they are handicapping their children by letting them hand an assignment in late or not being enrolled in gymnastics, soccer, ballet, painting, and mandarin–all by the age of 2.

I find it really hard fighting the judgement that comes when I opt out of doing the things for my kids that everyone around me thinks are necessities. My kids are 8 and 10, so I am a part of the old “wave”. If I tell other parents that we are having an in home birthday party or only one or two after school activities a week I feel very judged. I could use some back up too.
To Hannah S,
I know what you mean. For me it is about food. Call me a bad mother, but I just can’t obsess about every single that that passes my kids’ lips. I’ll go crazy. I think it is great that some moms put so much energy into their kids food but please don’t judge me if that isn’t my focus. And I worry it will all backfire anyway.