Comments on: Sweep the Minefield: Mother and Nanny http://www.sohoparenting.com/blog/2009/09/relationship-with-nanny/ Sound Advice In Crazy Times Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:29:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Jillian http://www.sohoparenting.com/blog/2009/09/relationship-with-nanny/comment-page-1/#comment-188 Jillian Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:53:46 +0000 http://www.sohoparenting.com/blog/?p=1048#comment-188 I agree-- sitting down with babysitters and telling them what you expect them to do and how you expect them to do it is very important, as every child and every household is different. As a babysitter, I find it helpful to have a list of things that need to get done, or things parents want you to look out for. I find myself scribbling things down on a pad of paper to make sure I fulfill all of my responsibilities. I'm sorry about the situation with your old nanny, that doesn't sound fun. If you are looking for someone during week nights or on weekends, feel free to contact me at jre242@nyu.edu, or check out my website at www.jillianbabysitter.com. Good luck! I agree– sitting down with babysitters and telling them what you expect them to do and how you expect them to do it is very important, as every child and every household is different. As a babysitter, I find it helpful to have a list of things that need to get done, or things parents want you to look out for. I find myself scribbling things down on a pad of paper to make sure I fulfill all of my responsibilities. I’m sorry about the situation with your old nanny, that doesn’t sound fun.

If you are looking for someone during week nights or on weekends, feel free to contact me at jre242@nyu.edu, or check out my website at http://www.jillianbabysitter.com.

Good luck!

]]> By: caroline http://www.sohoparenting.com/blog/2009/09/relationship-with-nanny/comment-page-1/#comment-127 caroline Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:39:38 +0000 http://www.sohoparenting.com/blog/?p=1048#comment-127 Spelling out responsibilities and other details is important up front is important but put them down on PAPER because even if you were clear details gets murky 3, 6, 12 months down the line. It just makes it easy for you and your nanny to refer to it. Sometimes things arise that were unforeseen. For example, our nanny was injured 'on the job'. She was part time (we paid her 5 sick days and paid her when we left for vacation which was 4 weeks+/year) . She wanted to sue our building and would not return to work until she received a settlement. We paid her 4 weeks pay. She was very disappointed and wanted more (though never asked how much more). I felt we should have given her another month b/c she was injured while looking after our son but it was transparent that she was looking for a big pay day from the building. Did we do the right thing? In any case, there are going to be difficult situations that arise, especially with part-time situations. Sitting down bi-weekly (even with part-time nannies) is a very smart ritual to keep things clear and to share updates on both sides. Thanks! Spelling out responsibilities and other details is important up front is important but put them down on PAPER because even if you were clear details gets murky 3, 6, 12 months down the line. It just makes it easy for you and your nanny to refer to it.

Sometimes things arise that were unforeseen. For example, our nanny was injured ‘on the job’. She was part time (we paid her 5 sick days and paid her when we left for vacation which was 4 weeks+/year) . She wanted to sue our building and would not return to work until she received a settlement. We paid her 4 weeks pay. She was very disappointed and wanted more (though never asked how much more). I felt we should have given her another month b/c she was injured while looking after our son but it was transparent that she was looking for a big pay day from the building. Did we do the right thing?

In any case, there are going to be difficult situations that arise, especially with part-time situations.

Sitting down bi-weekly (even with part-time nannies) is a very smart ritual to keep things clear and to share updates on both sides.

Thanks!

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